The 10 most positive and inspiring break up quotes:
1. “‘Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”—Alfred Lord Tennyson
Everyone who has suffered from a broken heart at any time has heard this quote. Unfortunately it does not give comfort at the beginning, only years later will you realize its profoundness and value.
When you understand its true meaning, then you’ll know that you’ve overcome your break up or divorce.
2. “If you really love something set it free. If it comes back it’s yours, if not it wasn’t meant to be.”—unknown
I heard this the first time in the movie Indecent Proposal. It illustrates the necessity of detachment, of “letting go” after a break up.
If you can let go, you will receive.
3. “You have to forgive to forget, and forget, to feel again.”—unknown
There is no moving on without forgiveness, and more importantly: there is no new beginning while carrying “old emotional baggage”.
4. “Those who do not know how to weep with their whole heart do not know how to laugh either.”—Golda Meir
Experiencing the negative emotions is part of life. Only if we are able to go through them with our full consciousness can we also appreciate and benefit from the positive ones.
5. “Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it’s better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.”—unknown
Sometimes relationships can’t be fixed. That is when it’s better to move on. Sad, but very often true.
6. “Some people think that it’s holding on that makes one strong; sometimes it’s letting go.”—unknown
Only when you are able to completely detach yourself, can you be free. After a break up, and elsewhere in life. Be a leaf floating in a river, not knowing where it might take you. This is true freedom.
7. “The loss of love is not nearly as painful as our resistance to accepting it is.”
—Tigress Luv
Acceptance is one important step in healing from a break up. This is part of the painful first phase.
8. “I’m going to smile and make you think I’m happy, I’m going to laugh, so you don’t see me cry, I’m going to let you go in style, and even if it kills me – I’m going to smile.”—Lone Star
This is actually some great break up advice in two ways: first you are not being needy in front of your Ex, you demonstrate strength and your Ex may wonder if s/he has made the right decision.
Also, constant smiling despite the fact that you feel terrible is a great way “to trick” your mind. By smiling, the body sends signals to the mind that you are happy, even if you are not. Eventually the mind WILL accept the state of the body.
This is simple neuro-linguistic programming.
9. “Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.”—M. Kathleen Casey
This is a great one.
It means that you have the choice to accept the pain and not allow it to turn into suffering.
One of the main reasons that mental pain turns into suffering is continual mental reasoning. We can break that vicious cycle by learning to control our thoughts.
10. “I don’t miss him, I miss who I thought he was.”—unknown
It is a great accomplishment to realize that we loved a concept, a picture we had in our minds, rather than the person himself. When we break up, it’s this concept we miss, and what causes the pain is the failure of the same.
The minute we realize this, we can kick our Exes from the pedestal.
These were some of the best inspirational break up quotes I could find; I hope you’ve enjoyed them.
They teach us about detachment, the necessity to forgive and let go, to live life to the fullest with all its dark sides, acceptance, neuro-linguistic programming, mental control and the existence of false pictures.
All virtues for overcoming a break up, and you are now one step closer to finding the secret of how to get over a break up.
For that arduous task, I wish you all the best.
You don't die from a broken heart, you only wish you did.Gelly Majuri
Wednesday, September 1, 2010
Tuesday, August 31, 2010
The Four Greatest Breakup Tips
Breakups are no fun at all, but they are a simple fact of life. If you're ready to call things off with your boyfriend or girlfriend, but don't know how to do it, then follow these four easy breakup tips.
If you've been in a long relationship or think your partner doesn't realize that you aren't happy, then it's even more important that you follow these breakup tips. A polite and clean breakup will almost always leave the possibility of a makeup.
Here are the four most important breakup tips:
1. Be honest and never lie. If you want to stay on good terms with your soon-to-be ex, then be sure that you can at least partially explain why you need to break up. Don't lie or make up excuses because that will only upset your ex.
2. Break up in person! If you aren't in middle school, then it's never appropriate to break up with a text message, email or Facebook message. In some very exceptional circumstances (like living on the other side of the planet) it may be permissible to break up over the phone. Honestly, if your significant other is less than 5 hours by car from your house, then break up in person.
3. Don't blame anyone. There's no point in airing all of your dirty laundry when you break up. Don't list all of your grievances with your ex. Remember, the goal of these breakup tips is to have a smooth and non-confrontational breakup.
4. Mean what you say. If you're telling your partner that it's over, then it really should be over -- at least for a few weeks. There's no point in follow up phone calls or any other contact with your ex. Remind yourself that you ended it for a reason and move on with your life.
Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.
If you've been in a long relationship or think your partner doesn't realize that you aren't happy, then it's even more important that you follow these breakup tips. A polite and clean breakup will almost always leave the possibility of a makeup.
Here are the four most important breakup tips:
1. Be honest and never lie. If you want to stay on good terms with your soon-to-be ex, then be sure that you can at least partially explain why you need to break up. Don't lie or make up excuses because that will only upset your ex.
2. Break up in person! If you aren't in middle school, then it's never appropriate to break up with a text message, email or Facebook message. In some very exceptional circumstances (like living on the other side of the planet) it may be permissible to break up over the phone. Honestly, if your significant other is less than 5 hours by car from your house, then break up in person.
3. Don't blame anyone. There's no point in airing all of your dirty laundry when you break up. Don't list all of your grievances with your ex. Remember, the goal of these breakup tips is to have a smooth and non-confrontational breakup.
4. Mean what you say. If you're telling your partner that it's over, then it really should be over -- at least for a few weeks. There's no point in follow up phone calls or any other contact with your ex. Remind yourself that you ended it for a reason and move on with your life.
Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.
Broken Marriage - Do You Really Want a Divorce?
Living in a broken marriage is difficult, frustrating and sometimes extremely painful and definitely not what you signed up for. Each day you wake up and wonder what's going to be the problem of the day that sinks your broken marriage closer to divorce. Sometimes you just want to cry or drive your car off the road because either one seems like a good choice compared to staying married.
I hope your marriage is not as broken as I described above. If your marriage is broken I hope and pray that in the next couple of days or weeks you can begin to fix the problems in your marriage and begin to feel loved, appreciated and hopeful about your marriage and future together.
Is your broken marriage really making you think about divorce? I know if you are you are thinking about divorce you are considering all of the complexities that go along with a divorce. The emotional strain a divorce puts on the couple, children and family can be quite devastating so divorce shouldn't be taken lightly.
Before you decide that you want a divorce because of your marriage problems, I would like you to do the following.
Determine What You Desire To Be Fixed In Your Broken Marriage
Sometimes I believe it's important to write down what you want fixed in your marriage. It's one thing to feel like your marriage is broken but have you really taken the time to think about all that's going wrong? It's important to know exactly what's wrong so you can figure out what's fixable and what's acceptable if it's not corrected immediately.
You should now have a clear mind on what you need and desire in your broken marriage to be fixed. There should be no confusing messages like "I just can't put my finger on it but our marriage is broken". If you can't explain what the problem is or what you desire in the marriage then I would suggest you spend a little more time figuring it out.
Decide If Things Changed In Your Broken Marriage Would You Stay
Ok, once you figure out what's broken and how you need things to be, now what? What if your spouse sees the error of his or her ways and is determined to immediately start taking steps to give you the marriage you have been hoping for. Is that the answer you were looking for or would you still want a divorce?
You see, sometimes spouses demand that their partner make changes, all the while hoping that the spouse refuses to change, thus making the divorce process easier and less guilty.
The last thing I would like you to do is not give up on your broken marriage. You see you don't have to end up going through the painful divorce process. You can improve and save your marriage, even if it has been broken for years.
You own it to your spouse and family to try to fix your broken marriage. If you try and fail at least you can say you tried.
A happy marriage is a long conversation which always seems too short by Andre Maurois
I hope your marriage is not as broken as I described above. If your marriage is broken I hope and pray that in the next couple of days or weeks you can begin to fix the problems in your marriage and begin to feel loved, appreciated and hopeful about your marriage and future together.
Is your broken marriage really making you think about divorce? I know if you are you are thinking about divorce you are considering all of the complexities that go along with a divorce. The emotional strain a divorce puts on the couple, children and family can be quite devastating so divorce shouldn't be taken lightly.
Before you decide that you want a divorce because of your marriage problems, I would like you to do the following.
Determine What You Desire To Be Fixed In Your Broken Marriage
Sometimes I believe it's important to write down what you want fixed in your marriage. It's one thing to feel like your marriage is broken but have you really taken the time to think about all that's going wrong? It's important to know exactly what's wrong so you can figure out what's fixable and what's acceptable if it's not corrected immediately.
You should now have a clear mind on what you need and desire in your broken marriage to be fixed. There should be no confusing messages like "I just can't put my finger on it but our marriage is broken". If you can't explain what the problem is or what you desire in the marriage then I would suggest you spend a little more time figuring it out.
Decide If Things Changed In Your Broken Marriage Would You Stay
Ok, once you figure out what's broken and how you need things to be, now what? What if your spouse sees the error of his or her ways and is determined to immediately start taking steps to give you the marriage you have been hoping for. Is that the answer you were looking for or would you still want a divorce?
You see, sometimes spouses demand that their partner make changes, all the while hoping that the spouse refuses to change, thus making the divorce process easier and less guilty.
The last thing I would like you to do is not give up on your broken marriage. You see you don't have to end up going through the painful divorce process. You can improve and save your marriage, even if it has been broken for years.
You own it to your spouse and family to try to fix your broken marriage. If you try and fail at least you can say you tried.
A happy marriage is a long conversation which always seems too short by Andre Maurois
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